Monday through Friday I get out of my bed with an urgency; that urgency is work. Work is a place where adults dress professionally, speak cordially to their co-workers, and get paid to do the job they were hired for; not sit on their derrières all day and do nothing.
In my previous line of employment I worked in a correctional facility. It was 1998 and I was so happy to have a job. I remember my very first staff meeting; Warden Tommy Douberley approached the podium with a stern face and spoke these words “leave your personal problems at the gate/door.”
At first I thought what a cruel thing to say to your employees, those that work tirelessly to make sure the job gets done day in and day out. I didn’t understand it then but as I got older I understood what he was saying. Yes we all have personal problems but if it’s going to stop you from doing your job then it’s not welcome here in the workplace.
I hear so many that complain about their work load and don’t realize how many people would love to be in the position that they take for granted. The unemployed stand in long lines daily looking for jobs that you are blessed to have.
In closing I leave these words; everyday get up with a mindset to be better, and do better because actions go much further than words.
Why are we so preoccupied with skin tone? I ask that question because I see so many woman bleaching their skin to become light and so many other women baking in the sun to become dark. Do you not like who you are? Are you not comfortable in your own skin? Do you wish you were someone else? I’m puzzled; what could possibly make you unhappy in the skin you’re in.
White women wishing they were black, black women wishing they were white, it blows my mind that no one is happy within themselves and marketing doesn’t make it any better with their labeling tabs. Even our telephones emphasize color with emojis. It seems to be a never ending saga.
Black is black and white is white. I don’t care if you’re light skin, black skin, fair skin, tan skin, you are a human being with a beautiful complexion that God blessed you with and that alone should make you feel beautiful.
Never look down on yourself or look up to others because they look a certain way. The problem with society is that so much emphasis is put on the celebrities looking perfect that we get infatuated with their lifestyle. Underneath all the makeup is blemished skin; words to the wise be you and be happy. When you love who you are, you exuberate beauty inside and out.
When the wedding is over and the honeymoon comes to an end, reality sets in and you realize that you are married. The comfort of knowing that you will always have to put down the toilet seat will make any woman cringe and the comfort of knowing that you will be the errand runner to get sanitary pads is enough to make any man cry.
This is when you find out about each other; does your other half chew with their mouth open, snore when they’re sleeping, hog the blanket, and the list goes on. Your relationship will definitely consist of surprises when you finally become husband and wife.
Anything worth having is worth working for and marriage is definitely one of those things. I have seen so many couples that have these big weddings but they don’t make it to their one year anniversary because they are not in it for the long haul. Those vows that you take should not be taken lightly!
Anything that you want to last; you have to work at constantly. I have been married going on 8 years and I can truly say communication, trust, and respect has made our marriage stay balanced. Through sickness and in health; it’s not easy by a long shot we have had some bad days but because we love each other and have faith in God we push through.
In some relationships one thing goes wrong and they are ready to throw in the towel. I will honestly tell anyone, before you get married picture yourself with that person for the duration; good and bad days, joy and pain, laughter and sadness, dollars and pennies, health and sickness. If you’re willing to face those things together then your marriage will work, but if you’re second guessing those vows marriage may not be for you.
Do you have Instagram, Pinterest, Facebook, or Snapchat? Well if you do you have seen the latest accessories for natural hair plastered all over social media outlets. In a previous blog I wrote about natural hair tshirts, well I am now strongly into natural hair accessories. I attended a hair show a couple of months ago and was able to purchase me a cute pair of earrings.
I just love rocking my natural hair and putting that stamp of approval on my attire by saying I don’t just talk about it, I be about it! My daughters surprised me for Christmas 2016 by purchasing me natural hair accessories. I received a bumper sticker to promote my YouTube channel, a tshirt, tote bag, and phone case. I was so overjoyed I did a YouTube video about my gifts, and now this blog 😂😂.
I’m not saying everyone has to go out and buy natural hair accessories I’m just saying I love them and I love it more when someone surprises with a gift that’s a hair accessory. Hope you enjoyed this blog, if so follow my natural hair journey.
Natural Hair Accessories
God is good and he is definitely worthy of the praise! I can’t fathom my life without him, how does one even function without him. I know there are some that don’t believe, maybe their prayer is taking a little longer to get answered or something happened to make them a nonbeliever but I trust God no matter what. I have been in situations that the only person that could deliver me from the enemies hands was God!
There is a song that my grandfather use to sing in church on Sundays the song was “somebody prayed for me, had me on their mind, took the time and prayed for me, I’m so glad they prayed, I’m so glad they prayed, I’m so glad they prayed for me.” I don’t think I would have made it this far without someone praying for me. I have faced a lot of oppositions and the most bearing ones have been lately, sometimes wanting to throw in the towel but I kept the faith that things would work out.
I don’t usually write blogs about my faith in God but someone needs to know that God will make a way just trust him and never doubt because he will definitely work things out. When you truly put your faith in God he can and will deliver you out of any situation.
Every year people take it upon them themselves to make a New Year Resolution. They make a resolution promising to change for the new year; out with the old and in with the new they say. I can actually count on one hand how many New Year Resolutions I kept during my early twenties and thirties.
At the close of one year I decided not to make anymore resolutions. Why did I have to wait for the beginning of a year to make a change when I could make changes whenever I felt the time was right. I have heard my friends say once the New Year comes in I am going to lose weight, stop smoking, eat healthy, be nice, stop lying, find love, save money, and the list goes on; but they never quite made their resolution come to pass.
My advice would be when you find something within yourself that you want to change do it, don’t wait for a certain event to make that change because you are not promised tomorrow nevertheless today.
On yesterday I went to the store and as I was shopping I looked for the expiration date on my food to make sure nothing was outdated, then it popped in my head we too have an expiration date. Many prepare by getting an Life Insurance Policy or setting a Last Will and Testament in place; but is that preparing you or your family?
I never think about how soon my expiration date maybe but it’s inevitable because it’s apart of life. With the recent death of celebrities Prince, David Bowie, Alan Thicke, and so many more celebrities everyone is starting to take notice that no one is invincible when it comes to death no matter how rich you are. You can’t buy a cure and you can’t purchase more days. Life is short and we must live it to the fullest. Make an impact on someone’s life, give without looking for something in return, love with no barriers.