Empowering Women

Women should empower other women, as a woman you shouldn’t be jealous of your girlfriends, but rooting for them to win. I have seen so many women digging ditches for those that are living out their dreams. Why are they hating when they can work hard and make it happen for themselves? Even those that get ahead still hate because they don’t want anyone to surpass them. I decided last night to create a group on Facebook titled “Successful Women Rock!” Hatred has no place in sisterhood, but unity. If we aren’t happy for one another’s success women supporters as we know them will become extinct. Be the supporter, the encourager, the EMPOWERED!!

Even if I don’t know you let’s empower one another. Please join this group to show your support to other women.




I’ve told my story to many and how growing up without a dad almost destroyed my inner being. While others hugged their father and became a daddy’s girl I became my grandfathers daughter because that’s who raised me. I remember asking my grandad could I call him dad and he replied yes. I thought I would eventually get over the way I felt toward my dad but as I have become older the feeling of being abandoned still eats away at me daily.

I have come to the realization that I was a fatherless child, even though his DNA helped to create me the man he was didn’t help raise me. It’s sad and unfortunate because I think I’m pretty amazing. I can recall asking him for $20.00 dollars and his reply of I don’t have it when he wore a neck full of chains and both hands weighted down with rings made me cringe.

No longer alive I can only go visit a grave without a headstone because as he abandoned me when I was a child he had been abandoned in death by the ones he loved so dearly. At his grave an orange flag marks where his head and feet lay. I could say this is karma, but the sad thing is I still love the man who didn’t love me back and even though he never gave to me I’m in the process of giving him a headstone.


Sometimes you write a blog and you have so many emotions running rapidly you don’t even have a title for your writing. You can be happy, sad, angry, or just troubled by life expectancies that you just ramble out words knowing the reader is lost because nothing you’re saying makes any sense only to you because it’s your life. (that’s me right now)

I have put myself in certain situations that I am partly to blame for the people that I let stay in my life, if I don’t evict them they will constantly turn my world upside down. I have let too many people rent space in my heart based on tenure. My friends say “wait until the New Year.” I hate to make New Years Resolutions; why should I wait until the beginning of the year to make a change when it can be done today.

This morning I woke up determined to work on strengthening my heart, for so long I have let people and their problems weigh on my heart. Cloudy, troubled and disdained emotions have weighed me down for so long not waiting to the beginning of the year to evict serving notices today.


You have been downgrading for so long that you forgot an upgrade was possible. You are beautiful and he’s a fool if he thinks your only option is him. He’s told you that no one will ever want you and you believed his pathetic lies. There are still some good men out there; stop punishing them for his actions. Any man who loves you will not hurt you with his words, any man who loves you will not hurt you with his hands. It’s time for you to upgrade, It’s time for you to move on knowing that you are better off without the abuse and lies it’s time for that upgrade!

You prayed about it, but you’re still worried about it. You said you released it, but you’re still holding on to it. Trusting God requires more than saying you believe, but having the faith that he will do it. Whatever you are asking of God don’t think that he has forgot about it you just continue to pray, have faith and trust God’s timing.


If you were to serve them with the same attitude that they served you they wouldn’t want to sit at the dinner table with you. It amazes me that some people think they can treat you like slop, but they want to be treated like a 5 course dinner. It’s not the strangers that treat you this way but the people that you have known all your life. They think you don’t have feelings…. sometimes they get angry and lash out because they are dependent on you and when you don’t give in to their insecurities you are the villain.

If you were to serve up some of their attitudes topped with get your behind out of my face how would they digest that course???

Learning to not let me people get under my skin. I refuse serve up the same hatred they served me. When you know better do better, grow folks acting like children!!

Pray More Worry Less

Every day we have something to pray about, whether it’s your family, job, health or finances something keeps you on your knees asking for help from the man above.

We tend to worry more than pray, simply because the solution to our problems won’t disappear overnight. The impatient human beings that we are want the Lord to expedite our prayer request.

Serving him and he doesn’t answer, how dare he???

The problem with some folks is that they don’t believe in God wholeheartedly. They’re sending up prayers requests but not trusting him to answer.

Why ask if you will doubt??

It’s time to pray more and worry less believing that God can and he will work it out for you according to his TIMING not yours.

Philippians 4:6-7